Here's one attempt to answer this - try this test (not too seriously) ... from a book entitled "No More Christian Nice Guy" ...
There's a lot being said and written at the moment about what God intends men and women to be. One comment that has appeared more than once on blog posts about godly masculinity has been "(why) does this only apply to men?". This makes me think about what difference it makes to be male or female under God, and how gender might influence the way God deals with us, how we respond to him and so on.
What I see in the Christian community concerns me. Coming from a male perspective, I'm concerned about how many Christian men are struggling to know who they are really meant to be, and to understand what implications that has for being husbands, fathers, sons, leaders, prophets, agents for change and so forth. From many conversations in recent years, I can only conclude that many Christian men harbour some degree of doubt and lack of confidence about what they have to offer the world, the church, the lost, their wives, children and all the other people that matter to them.
There is so much being written and said about what manhood and masculinity are all about. The burden I increasingly feel is to get to the heart of what God intended for us as men, and to discover how God deals with a man in a way which affirms and draws out his masculinity specifically, and not just his humanity in a general way. I would want there to be similar and parallel understanding of how God deals with a woman in a way which affirms and draws out her femininity specifically, and not just her humanity in a general way.
What I'm searching for is the basis for a man to feel secure in his created identity in a way which frees him to live out of a place of quiet inner humble strength, and does away with the need to prove himself, to abuse power or abuse other people, to run away from his weaknesses, and that kind of thing.